The idea for this blog post came as a response to the controversial Netflix series “13 Reasons Why,” which follows the aftermath of a teenage girl’s suicide and the tapes she left behind to each person who contributed to her death. The series has been widely criticized for its handling of the sensitive material. Geared toward a teenage audience, it does not discuss mental health or suicide prevention, and almost presents suicide as a way to have your voice heard.
So, here are 13 reasons why NOT to kill yourself…
1.) You are enough.
When you’re tired and worn, when your heart is heavy from the work it takes to keep on breathing, when you’ve made mistakes and you’ve let your hope fail, and your soul is crushed from the weight of this world, just remember that you simply being here is enough. YOU are enough.
2.) When nothing is certain, anything is possible.
Change is the one thing that is constant in our lives. All of this is temporary. Things may feel completely out of control, you may feel like you’ve fallen and you can’t get back up, but life constantly changes. You will get back up again, things will fall back into place, and you will feel better…you just have to hang on. I promise, this too shall pass.
3.) You are worth it.
It may not feel like it right now, but you ARE worth it. Just because you may feel worthless right now, does not mean you are. It is a feeling, and feelings are not always factual.
4.) You are not alone.
It may seem like you’re alone and like no one can understand what you’re going through, but I promise you, there are people that are here for you. You may not know them, but there are people who care and can help support you. Try to reach out…reach out to anyone. Just try texting the Crisis Text Line (text “START” to 741-741) or call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). There is someone available 24/7 to talk to and support you.
5.) Broken vases are beautiful.
You feel like you’ve done too many bad things, made too many mistakes, or been broken into a million pieces. Just remember, broken vases are more beautiful than other ones…They still function and hold flowers, but are even more beautiful because of their cracks.
6.) Struggling with emotional issues and/or mental illness(es) is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign off strength.
Struggling with your emotions is your brain’s way of letting you know you need to deal with something. And working on yourself isn’t always so easy. It’s actually really hard. That’s why the people who recognize they’re struggling and the people who reach out and get help are some of the strongest people in the world.
7.) People will not be better off without you.
Despite what you may think, people would NOT be better off without you…they’d actually be a hell of a lot worse off without you. Think of all of the immediate people who would be affected by your suicide. Chances are that most of them would not only miss you, but would also grieve your loss, grieve your kindness, your friendship, your help, your company, and all of your positive qualities. People would obsess over what they could’ve done to prevent this, and some will even blame themselves for it for the rest of their lives. Trust me, I’ve felt that grief and that guilt, and it is debilitating.
8.) Life is a fight worth finishing.
You can believe in your dreams even when you don’t always believe in yourself. Keep holding on and keep fighting, because your dreams and your future are worth it. You’re a fighter. You have survived, so you have it in you to survive the recovery.
9.) When one door closes, another door opens.
Just when it seems like it’s over, like it’s never going to get better, like you’d be better off without all of this pain and misery, is when another door will open. Just wait on another door (or window) to open and you can have a new opportunity, a new relationship, a new start.
Your sentence is not over yet. A semicolon is a place in a sentence where the author has the decision to stop with a period, but chooses not too; it separates two independent clauses that are related. It’s a reminder to pause, but then to keep going. You are at a point in your life where you can choose to put a semicolon, regroup, breath, and keep writing your sentence.
11.) It’s okay to give up, just don’t give up on yourself.
It is okay to feel tired and to feel hopeless sometimes. Everyone has days when they want to give up on life. On these days, we want to run away or even end it all. But please, ask for help because you deserve it.
12.) You have a choice. Your life is up to you.
You deserve the chance to make choices for yourself and decide what you want your life to be. You deserve the chance to make your dreams a reality.
13.) Suicide does not end the chances of life getting worse; suicide eliminates the possibility of it ever getting better.